Vital Information to NOT Include in Your Profile: Once you’ve made the decision to join an online dating site, you can really start to let the creative juices flow. You can fill out your profile with endless bits of information about who you are and what you want. You can add some funny photos, some unique artwork, or a host of other things. It’s a good idea to put down what type of music and movies you like. Do you like to cook? Are you a huge sports fan? All of these things, though they don’t seem it, are very important pieces of information to add. It helps the people viewing your profile know the real “you.” And when it boils down to it, your personality is what’s really going to sell.

Because everything on an online dating site is literally so black and white to start, it helps tremendously to take special care in filling out your profile. You can take the advice of people who’ve been successful on dating sites. But you also want to take a queue from people who’ve been unsuccessful. It’s not all about what you put in – sometimes, what you leave out is just as important.

Here is a quick list of some things to leave out of your dating profile:

The first thing you want to leave out (guys!) is any talk of the sexual nature. Yeah, it may seem flirty and playful to speak about your endowment or other skills you may possess, but that’s attracting the wrong kind of person. If you’ve joined a dating site, you’ve most likely done so to develop a lasting relationship. Making yourself seem cheap and sleazy is going to turn off a lot more than it turns on. Save the initial flirting and X-rated lingo until after you’ve met someone.

Next, you want to try to avoid coming across as stupid. I’m not trying to insult anyone who loves using the new Internet texting slang, but typing in FFS, TTFN, LOL, TTYL, HAGD, etc, may seem as if you skipped 12 years of English classes. Look, odds are that the person viewing your profile knows what every one of those means, but it’s basically pointless to try and communicate like you’re a 12-year-old girl on a cell phone. The idea here is to come across like you’re mature and ready for a real relationship.

The next thing you want to leave out of your profile is any information about past relationships, whether they were good or bad. It’s not that your potential partner doesn’t want to know about your past life experiences, but when you’re talking about it in your initial information, it appears as if you’re hung up on a previous love, or all-together broken down. For example, if you’re including “I’ve had my heart broken too many times” in your profile, you’re coming across as whiny. And if you’re telling the world “I just got out of a painful relationship,” you’re basically saying that you’re not ready to move on.

If you’ve had previous run-ins with the law or anything similar, this may be something you want to leave out of your profile. And like the other topics, it’s not that these details aren’t important, it’s just that you don’t want to be judged solely on these topics. If you caught a bad rap once upon a time and have a charge on your record, this may be the only thing another person sees when looking at your profile. And this isn’t a fair representation of who you are. Just make sure to open up and be honest once you reach the next level. You don’t want to intentionally keep these details out – you only want to be judged for who you are.    Back